So, then. It was all a mistake, an oversight, someone else’s fault, certainly not Stephen Fry’s, writes Lee Marlow.

No sirree, the nation’s favourite gay man didn’t really mean that women didn’t like sex, he explained at some length on his blog yesterday (although, if you look at the web address at the end of this you’ll find him saying something uncannily similar a few years earlier.)

Anyway, right or wrong, in context or out of context, the former Uppingham School boy kick-started a week-long media inquest into the sex lives of UK women.

All sorts of experts had their say, but we rarely heard from real women with real opinions.

NO, IT DOES NOT! Says Shirley Yanez

Shirley Yanez knows what you're thinking. You're thinking: Look at her. Look at how she dresses. Look how desperate she is to get a man. "I know that's what some people think when they look at me," says Shirley, a single 54-year-old from Blaby. "They look at me and think: 'Look at her – I bet she goes 19 to the dozen'."

Nothing could be further from the truth. Shirley Yanez is celibate. She has not had sex for 10 years.

"What I want to say is simple: it's better to be like this. You don't need to need to constantly having sex with lots of men to be happy."