I am horrified to see the facts around porn addiction and young men in today's web and technology culture, where few communicate face to face, many cannot spell because of texting and most get there unlimited sexual fantasies on-line. Internet porn is where our young men are learning to dominate sexually and our young women are being subjected to humiliation as a result. If you can imagine when a young male, already dealing with testosterone issues, is learning life skills and social interaction with the opposite sex from watching hard core porn on the net, empathy, respect and reality is replaced with personal gratification.
If watching a naked willing female with huge fake breasts, lips and no body hair being pulled, poked and pushed about by a group of aggressive male predators, queuing for a gang bang and the girl is happy and smiling having fun, it is no wonder porn appears normalised and the way to go. I am not a prude and understand being young is all about risk and experimenting but if we are to create happy balanced adults, we have to understand what is acceptable and what is not, in real life, not in a cyber world where people get paid to perform.
Sex and porn education needs to be presented to children as early as five or six by their parents who they trust because the sooner kids have the right information, the sooner they are able to make the right choices for them, not what is expected by others. Sex is something to be enjoyed not endured, so understanding who we are and what we need, not desire in the moment, is where we begin when offering young people wise council about developing sexual relationships themselves.
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