Venus Cow says “If you care more about what others think of you than you care about what you think about yourself, you will NEVER be happy.”
We are a culture of self obsessed materialistic mice on a wheel going round and round looking outward for approval.
“ I want it and I want it NOW!!!!”
We are judged by what we have, own. The bigger the car the more powerful we feel but no matter how much you spend someone will always spend more.
Imagine if you were suddenly made homeless and found yourself starving. Chances are you wouldn’t give a fig what people thought of you when "beg for food or die" are your options.
Buying a top of the range pushchair for your child because you want to have the biggest and the best to show off at the mother’s group is a classic example of status anxiety. In reality no one cares how much you paid for the pushchair. People are much more likely to be interested in or want to compliment you on your child.
Venus Cow says “Buy new and the jokes on you.”
Imagine your ultimate desire is to own a Chanel suit, the reality of which is saving for a lifetime to buy one. Now imagine a friend tells you that someone told them, after stating clearly they would never be seen dead in such a place, the local charity shop had had donated two Chanel suits in mint condition. Would you want it enough to overcome it being second hand and in a charity shop? Would you visit the charity shop in disguise then lie, telling everyone you got it in Paris? Or would you keep working to save every penny and wait until you could buy the real thing?
The truth is whether you buy it second hand or pay full whack wearing it wont change who you are and shopping for approval is completely pointless, no one really notices or cares, like you they are too busy worrying about themselves.
Common sense tells us one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Recycling can help save the planet reducing landfill and all charity shops need your support.
Recognise looking good by doing good is the only real authentic way to change your life.
Photo by : Priscilla Du Preez