Whether you are the perpetrator or the victim of bullying, it's important to look at why we do it, why we let it happen and how we can learn to stop both behaviour patterns.

I say it a lot. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. Head up, shoulders back and smile.

With every new day comes the chance to let it all go, forgive yourself and start again. Feelings of regret are powerful and if we allow them to fester they will without a doubt keep us stuck in misery indefinitely.

Feel the fear then do it anyway. We've all heard the saying but we all know equally how crippling fear can actually be.

Courage is one core value we work on in therapy. Task 1. Do something every day you would normally be afraid of. Sometimes just being brave enough to tell someone the truth is all your need to do to make a massive change.

When my nephew, who is tall, handsome, 30 and not a people pleaser tells me I could pass for 45 almost 20 years less than my actual age and asks me how I do it, he's interested in my anti aging strategy for himself, I know I have the secret.