The truth is for women in western culture middle age brings nothing but the dreaded menopause, translated as life’s tragedy for every woman, the brutal realisation you are "no longer desirable".
Not surprisingly menopause is rarely mentioned or ever discussed over lunch. We are more likely to suffer in silence. The prospect of turning into a bitchy, sweaty, bloated, irrational, volatile, moody cow for up to 10 years is something none of us wish to think about.
Don’t be scared. Be prepared.
It has been suggested that some women reach mid life feeling so unhealthy, unwell, overweight and exhausted they don’t even realise they are in menopause.
Menopausal women in Japan suffer much less than women in the west due to their “no dairy and good for you lifestyle.” If you are drinking coffee/tea eating chocolate, cannot resist cream cakes and guzzle wine every day chances are you have got used to the bloating, the moods, the headaches, the pains and no sleep, all the same symptoms as menopause.
Common Sense tells us, If we are in perfect working order, have a healthy diet, are fit, slim and love who we are, we will sail through life living it to the full and not constantly at the doctors. Listen to your body whisper and you won't have to hear it scream.
Prepare yourself for middle age and menopause. You cannot continue to eat and drink the way you did before your metabolism slowed down. Your body is your temple and deserves to be preserved by you. Start thinking about making some life changes and recognise you have choices. It is up to you and costs nothing.
Middle age is a time just for you to regain your life not give up on it. You’ve been round the block a few times, multi tasking for everyone else but yourself. Embrace menopause head on with a positive attitude. Make light of it. Change the way you think about menopause and it will surprise you how many other women have top tips to help you through.
Giving up dairy has been a miracle for me. I am also a great believer in HRT. For those who still prefer to suffer in silence eat houmous.
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