I found the isolation brutal after losing the money. For the first time in my life I was truly alone. I was petrified but with time and committed meditation my "Isolation" became my "Splendid Isolation" on the California coast.

Think of your triggers as a great wave, waterfall, tsunami coming your way. Your objective is to learn to recognise the trigger and consciously disarm it before it does it's worst and activates that unwelcome automated response and you're under.

Maturity is discovering the wisdom to know we don't always know although poo pooed as a fun inhibiting characteristic. Maturity comes from experience, not watching others make mistakes but making them ourselves. 

The more you master yourself the less you will come to rely on the support of a family you may care very deeply for but like everyone's is not perfect. Just because we may be related doesn't mean the dark side of our nature is not at work behind the scenes.

All of us at our core have a strong compassionate instinct. A natural and automatic response that ensures our survival.

A maasive subject to cover in a short tutorial but once you've grasped the concept of what you actually capable of and tools at your disposal you will be filled with hope and ultimately unstoppable. Your soul or your spirit is the the most powerful tool in your box.

Happiness comes from mastering the art of appreciation and learning to enjoy and be grateful for what you have, indeed all you have which if you live in the west is likely more than most.

Being confident is about being sure because if you are sure, you can never make a mistake. Being sure means taking your time, going at your own pace, being in control and never allowing others to undermine you or your thinking.

I say it a lot. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. Head up, shoulders back and smile.

Meaning and purpose are the two things we have to discover when we look for enlightenment

The next time you catch yourself speaking about someone behind their back, we all do it, ask yourself if you'd be brave enough to say what you have to say to their face.

With every new day comes the chance to let it all go, forgive yourself and start again. Feelings of regret are powerful and if we allow them to fester they will without a doubt keep us stuck in misery indefinitely.

Only you can discover your true purpose by listening to only yourself and learning what makes you happy.

Have you ever said "I never lie", "I am an honest person" "I don't lie"? Now ask yourself if any of these statements are actually true.

How do I build self confidence and boost self esteem? Common sense tells us if we believe we're not rich enough or good looking enough we're never going to have any self confidence.

Ungratefulness and jealousy live together in your mind. Start to nurture feelings of gratitude and your feelings of jealousy will melt away.

Taking responsibility for your actions gives you humility which becomes very attractive to others you meet

Your Venus Cow is the youthful, fresh, desirable girl lost inside the time gap between what we used to look like and the cruel reality of ageing, menopause and no confidence. You feel like she's gone forever but she's not, she just needs a slap round the face to wake her up.

We all live in denial to some extent. It's a lying mechanism that allows us to separate ourselves from our poor choices. "Who me?" "That's not me?" "I don't smoke, well only occasionally?" It takes time and dedication to get to a place where we can own all our choices and never justify them.

Time spent in splendid isolation is the way to self actualization