My best advice when it comes to lying to others is until your are self aware enough to know you are doing it, stop talking. Lying to yourself, what goes on in your mind is a whole different story and to sort that out takes daily meditation.
It is a good exercise on its own to just ask yourself why do you do the things you do. Now think about sheep who follow each other nowhere except to death. Pretending to be someone you are not to please others leaves you feeling like a stranger to yourself.
Venus Cow says “If you want to be happy, lying is forbidden particularly to yourself.”
The best thing to do when you have told a lie to someone else is ask yourself,
"Why did I do wrong, knowingly?"
The truth is you did it because you can. If you are able to face yourself and really think about this you will immediately feel bad and uncomfortable. So to eradicate lying from your life ask yourself the following questions daily to use later as a reference the next time you find yourself creating a docu-story (lying)
Have I made fun of a good person?
Have I been lazy?
Have I been angry, selfish, sulky and unforgiving?
Have I been jealous?
Have I made someone else do something wrong?
Have I stolen?
Have I told a lie?
Venus Cow says "Telling the truth means never having to remember."
If you are connected to the fact your heart is in charge you will automatically feel sorry when you do something wrong. When your conscience is troubled you don’t have “peace of mind” you have a chaotic mind. Facing your truth and changing your behaviour, the patterns, the rubbish, the lies, will pay off in the end. If we truly want to be happy, we have to look inwards and not outwards.
One lie leads to another lie until none of it makes sense. Continuity and consistency is the key to any success. When people know where they stand with you because you are consistent, reliable and trustworthy doors will open to things that will immediately change your life.
Getting a handle on unconscious behavior patterns is critical to stop us consciously believing our own lies and acting them out to others.
Venus Cow says, "Stop listening to the little voice inside until you can tell yourself the honest truth. Take action now and start believing in yourself."
It is time to stop deluding yourself into thinking you are accomplishing your daily goals when in fact you have just become too comfortable and complacent. The worst lie we can ever tell is to ourselves, so don’t do it anymore. If you are over eating and being a pig, go to your journal and put up a picture of a pig. Now give it a name, your name and everyday work as hard as you can to tell yourself the truth about why you are unable to see yourself as something else. Eventually the truth will set you free, let you fly and hopefully land in a place where the truth no longer hurts but empowers you to change.
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