Some people are always arguing. Some people avoid conflict altogether. But whichever category you belong to both cause unnecessary stress. Now imagine if someone posted a film of you losing it online.

A maasive subject to cover in a short tutorial but once you've grasped the concept of what you actually capable of and tools at your disposal you will be filled with hope and ultimately unstoppable. Your soul or your spirit is the the most powerful tool in your box.

This month in Beacon Magazine, Leicestershire's Premier Lifestyle Magazine, Shirley shares her wise counsel on the "New Year Resolution" and gives tips on how changing your thinking can ensure a very happy new year.

"So, as we say goodbye to another year, it's time to take some time to reflect, remember and renew all the promises, ideas and resolutions we made at the start of the new year. Did you successfully give up drinking for the month of...

When I found myself in a mental health hell the one thing I needed more than anything else was a free life coach. In LA there's no such thing, I enlisted the help of Carl Jung to help me and why I am available to help anyone who finds themselves in the same predictament, at no charge.

Controlled indulgence is all about being able to have a bit of what you fancy, now and again, without it becoming a compulsive addiction you need to get you through your life.

The greatest skill you'll ever master is self therapy.

Happiness comes from mastering the art of appreciation and learning to enjoy and be grateful for what you have, indeed all you have which if you live in the west is likely more than most.

"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others and if we cannot help them, don’t hurt them." Dalai Lama

Feelings of guilt originate deep in the subconscious. Remember our thoughts are not facts. Sometimes these feelings genuinely stem from poor choices but sometimes we project these feelings upon ourselves without any real cause.

Too much shopping may give us the lift we crave just like any other addiction but the feeling is temporary and not the reality.

Change the way you think about things and the things you get will change. Sometimes the most dangerous trips we take are the places we go for comfort in our minds.

With every new day comes the chance to let it all go, forgive yourself and start again. Feelings of regret are powerful and if we allow them to fester they will without a doubt keep us stuck in misery indefinitely.

Feel the fear then do it anyway. We've all heard the saying but we all know equally how crippling fear can actually be.

Seeds of anger and resentment are sewn in the subconscious mind from the beginning and unless we actively address the reasons for them deal with them, forgive the perpetrators and ourselves these feelings will continue to manifest forever.

Have you ever said "I never lie", "I am an honest person" "I don't lie"? Now ask yourself if any of these statements are actually true.

We are all slaves to the clock, working to live but most of us are not actually doing the living bit.

Ungratefulness and jealousy live together in your mind. Start to nurture feelings of gratitude and your feelings of jealousy will melt away.

We all live in denial to some extent. It's a lying mechanism that allows us to separate ourselves from our poor choices. "Who me?" "That's not me?" "I don't smoke, well only occasionally?" It takes time and dedication to get to a place where we can own all our choices and never justify them.